school uniform - sexy... (huh ?? *sigh*)

WHEN Munirah Bahari of National Islamic Students Associaton of Malaysia made a statement that our school uniform is sexy, i sigh....

ok, she may have reasons to believe what she belief and i wonder what.

Victims of rape and sexual harassment are not necessarily the ones wearing sexy outfits as even those clad in tudung also become victims.

It is not a matter of age either as even infants and grandmas have fallen victim to such crime. Even the disabled are not spared, while the worst is raping their own daughters.

Eventho i wanna believe that Munirah might have some points, i just couldn't. It has nothing to do with clothings. Imagine this - let say a naked woman walk in a public, men will pop out their eyes and cheers. No one will gang bang her. But why when a fully covered woman walk by, she gets rape. It's simply how the mind of a rapist works. It's their imagination. If a woman is covered from head to toe, a man will imaginatively strip her off. It's just how a sick mind work.

I was raped by a colleague seven years ago simply because he didn't "get it" from his wife during maternity period. That day i dressed up like millions of other girls in the world dressed up - a tshirt and jeans. Seven years ago i was quite chubby and overly-conscious about showing off my fats, therefore the tshirt and jeans i wore was baggy. See, it has nothing to do with being sexy.

I have lost many many kgs since then and i can proudly say that i look so much better now. Using sexy clothes, i still know how to carry myself and learn more on how to protect myself. Again, it has got nothing to do with being sexy !!

If a rape happen, why not we just blame the rapist ? why don't we implement higher mandatory sentence on the rapist ? why must we blame the victim on what she chose to wear ?

if munirah wanna go religious and say it's compulsory for a muslim female to use tudung or tutup aurat, ok, i'll waive my white flag but don't go around saying because we are not covered, we'll get rape.

And mind you, i don't have any slightest respect to those who are bertudung unless proven to me that they earn my respect. If you wanna use tudung then carry the image to the T. Don't just use tudung and still hold hands with your boyfriend - hold hands with non-muhrim is also haram as haram as tak tutup aurat. That i consider lying to yourself a.k.a hypocrite.

Ok, let's not go deep into the religion, but if anybody wanna debate with me about the religion, be my guest. I know what is written in the Al-Quran.

Back to being sexy, girls, just be who you are, don't have to pretend to be someone that others want you to be. Use whatever you are comfortable with.

As to avoid rape, learn tactics on how to counter if were to be attacked, keep small "weapon" handy e.g. pepper spray, nail clipper, whistle, pens etc.. Avoid walking alone at quite areas, avoid obvious routines... There are other aspects to be considered rather than just clothings.

May God bless us all..

c'est la vie !

cheers !