anak manja mommy & ayah

commonly, when anybody knows that i am the only child in the family, the first reaction was "aaa, anak manja la ni"..

sheesshhh, i wish..

when i was still schooling my parents were not that patient with me. i got scolded, screamed at, kena sebat with rotan, kene sebat with belt, kena pukul with their bare hands.. i don't remember being slapped but am not surprise if i did. i melawan of course BUT never reported it as kena DERA. maybe that's how kids during my time were brought up. however we don't like how our parents treated us, we still respect them as our parents and live with it.

unlike kids, teenagers, adults nor parents nowadays. the teachers can't even touch or talk to their students anymore. if they dare to do it, the teacher will be transfered to some other state or worst terminated.

my real name is spelt in strange way, not how it normally does. so, my school teacher always write the wrong spelling. once in my primary school days, my dad wrote my name on a big piece of cardboard, came to school and gave it to the teacher.

once a friend ring me at home when i was out and asked my dad when would i be back. my dad's answer was "entah, saya pun tak tanya kenapa awak pulak tanya ?"

my mom would put in the best school in town, fetch me from school during her lunch break then go back to work. cooked for me in the dawn so i'll have food when i come back from school, entertained my friends when they sleepover, studied with me even cried with me when i am sad.

once, i broke up with a so-called boyfriend in college, i cried and cried and cried. mom came into my room hug me, said "if mommy can cry for you i would but you don't have to do it alone, ok.."

once my parents told me that when they are old and i am too busy to take care of them, i can send them to the old folks home but the expensive one lah and i will have to pay for it.. but since they have their own house, i will have to pay for a hunk and a babe to be their in-house maid ;-)

yesterday, my cousin & friend were talking about kids upbringing and she told us what her mom told her, exactly what my mom told me.

my parents brought me up with a very very strict environment, NO to everything, MUST DO to all the must dos and DON'T to all the don'ts. i rebelled but still respect them. teachers can scold me and my parents would agree. all are for the best of my education & life. it went on until i earn the papers.

when i started working, having my own income, my parents told me that they have taught me to be a person and that i can do whatever i want with my life with ONE condition - in anything i do, not to humiliate them..

i have to admit that i did, once. one thing that humiliated them and i do regret it. but they did not disowned me and we handled it like a family. that is why until now, don't anybody, not even their siblings try anything to hurt my parents. not if they wanna know how my sarcasm works.

45 minutes away from where they live, i don't go back as much as i think they would want me to. last year i think i went back only 6 times. this year the family definition has changed, thanks to my darling who coincidently live only about 10mins away from my parents so that makes me go back on weekly basis.

despite all that, now, for sure, i know that my parents are very very proud of me. i know these for fact coz i can see their happy smiles when they saw my car parked outside in the morning then when i got up, breakfast is ready. the only reason they ask when am i going back to kl is to know if they have time for dinner with me.

now i admit that i am my mommy's and ayah's anak manja :-)

c'est la vie...